M I S T E R C A S A N O V A

Sep 18, 2012

Social Media is a drug

Social media is a drug

I've noticed that some of my friends are addicted to it, some have actually given up on it cold turkey and others don't even want to use it, most of us are dependent on it.

For someone like me I see it as an important tool that may in fact allow me to strengthen my fan base and that of Los Amigos Invisibles of course, it is also a great means of self promotion and publicity but after a while, this close connection with random people and fans opens up a whole new universe of social interaction that can be both pleasant and hurtful.

Everything you put out there on a Tweet, Facebook status, Blog or even Instagram becomes public and thus it is subject to the public eye's opinion and scrutiny having consequences for anyone using social media, but for those who are within the public's eye because of they're chosen trade or profession the consequences become amplified and although some people can make you feel great by complementing your work and sharing wonderful things with you others can be downright mean without any reason whatsoever. Many celebrities have chosen to close their twitter accounts because of this, I've seen how sometimes people say very nasty things to friends of mine that are "famous" and although I believe I am quite cautious on what I post and I don't publicize my social media feeds much either, I too have been subject to a couple of hurtful comments from people I don't even know and when these things happen you are faced with the question on how to react to them.

The fact is that when someone flames me or makes a hurtful comment to me I do feel hurt, I'm not the kind of person that can just let these things go by, so, once the hurt is there, how should I react? Should I not pay attention? Should I comment back? If i do comment back, what should I say so I don't sound like an idiot or I can get my message across as best as possible? Probably there is no right answer to these questions either, but for now, I guess I only wish to use this space to vent things out.

Recently a couple of strangers have commented while following me on Instagram how disappointed they are by me being gay, one guy I chose to block and I erased his message, another girl I chose to reply her comment to see what is her reaction, but my question is, why are they following on the first place? and assuming they were not aware of my sexual orientation, why do they keep following me after they find out and why do they have to comment on it? I'm only commenting on the things that have been posted on my personal social media sites, the kind of stuff sometimes going through Los Amigos Invisibles' sites sometimes get to the point of just being funny and ridiculous, but since they are commenting on the band as a unit I can digest that kind of flaming more easily, needless to say, there are also thousands of endearing and encouraging comments from fans that can make us feel great and elated so this is the reason why I state that social media can be a drug, if you are addicted to it you can look for it to give you the ego boost you need and feel as if you are connecting with people who like you and think like you but it comes with side effects where people who have to vent their own personal issues and don't have the proper means to do it choose to hurt you and in fact they actually manage to do it sometimes.

Apr 18, 2011

Books and Movies

Yesterday was my gay culture day, decided to buy Ricky Martin's book and went to see a movie called "La Otra Familia". I'll tell you about the book once I read it but for now let's discuss the movie.

As not to give to much away I'll just quote the first paragraph of the movie's synopsis: "Abandoned for 3 days by his Crack addicted Mother, Hendrix, a 7 year old boy is rescued by a friend and given to a homosexual couple to take care of the child."

First off I'd advise people to go see it, it is a moving story that does touch several emotional strings and it's also an insightful look at the issues the gay community encounters when trying to become a family in todays society, that said, the movie has one big flaw, director Gustavo Loza in my humble opinion should have perhaps focused more on the main story of the child and his adoptive parents making the movie more concise and to the point, there is a side story of a lesbian couple that wants to become pregnant that simply get's lost within the script and takes some meaning away from the main story, I think that should be another movie altogether.

I doubt this movie will make it anytime soon to the US, but if it does and you are queer friendly, I'd ask you to go see it or perhaps wait till it comes out in Amazon or Netflix or something like that, there is an important message within the movie, a message that shows how sometimes the prejudice of certain people makes them assume things that are simply not true and in that assumption they pretty much can destroy people's lives without true knowledge of what is really happening.

Mar 25, 2011

Weird dreams

I've been having a lot of those lately, some of them a little too explicit or insightful to share them here, but I had a weird funny one yesterday, or was it today? I can't keep track of time with all this going about in planes, buses and the like.

Now this dream was of the 3rd person kind, meaning that I was an observer of what was happening but not involved in the dream. It was the set of "Saved by the Bell" which strangely resembled my living room and Zack was planning a sleep over / pajama party of sorts, he was acting all awkward and Screech and Albert didn't quite understand his behavior, Zack was nervous and acting a little effeminate, some idle conversation and a few funny comments after John Holmes (yes, the porn actor) comes into the set and begins to spill out in a standup comedian way how Zach has been lately having wet dreams about him and wants to do a pajama party so he can have full on gay sex with the three of them.

I'm usually pretty good at analyzing my own dreams and understanding where they come from, and I guess I did have a crush on Zack way back when (looking back, now I think he's kinda lame), but honestly I just find this dream ridiculously funny and can't make much more out of it.